Do You Deserve to Have Money?
One of the things that stops people from having money is their belief that they deserve to have money.
WHAT SOME PEOPLE SAY:
- “Money is a protection.”
- “Money makes you secure, and happy.”
- “Money answers every need.” For example, money can buy the things you need to survive—such as food and medicine.
Money also helps you to take care of your family. It is wise to use money responsibly, and honestly.
People have thoughts that they do or do not deserve money— and even those who deserve it tend to have a limit on how much they really deserve. People think, not from abundance, but from scarcity, and don’t even know they’re doing that.
Some of the conversations—both with themselves, and with others—that people hear are:
Well, if I had all that money, I’d probably be evil . . . I’d become a tightwad . . . I’d harm people . . . I wouldn’t be generous . . . I don’t want to pay all those taxes . . . People will come after me, and try to beg, and borrow money . . . I’ll lose my friends . . . My family will resent me . . . .My friends will beg me for money.
How can you use money wisely?
“First sit down, and calculate the expense.”
Simply look at people in your life who have a lot of money, and notice the misgivings you have about them. Look at the anxieties, qualms, and complaints you have about these people, who they are, and how “badly” they behave. Happiness does not depend on having the latest things, and a lot of money.
To think about:
To learn what stops you from having money, look at what you wouldn’t do if you had it—and notice where you got that from. Begin to look at why you don’t attract money by being aware of the thoughts you have about it—like the things you wouldn’t do if you had money. Therein lies the key to how you hold yourself with scarcity. “Thinking only in terms of the next major promotion, making more money or acquiring more stuff, fails to feed the soul,” writes career counselor Tom Denham. “Simply measuring success in monetary terms is shallow, and will leave you empty in the long-term.”
By focusing on these things you wouldn’t do, you block out the possibilities for having money. When you get entangled, and bogged down in this type of negative thinking about money, there isn’t any opportunity for you to really attract money into your life, and work. You can bet that people’s thinking for what they won’t do is far more powerful than they’re considering what they will do.
Even if you don’t have a long list of the things you wouldn’t do if you had money, you’re pretty intense, and passionate about the ones you do have. We are very strong in our convictions about what we wouldn’t do. This strength of your convictions obliterates any possibility of your having money!
Remember that a materialistic lifestyle does not guarantee satisfaction. In fact, it tends to do the opposite. “People whose primary motivations are financial are much more likely to be anxious, and depressed than people who value strong relationships with others,” writes Dr. Jean M. Twenge in her book Generation Me. She adds: “Research consistently finds that money cannot buy happiness—after you reach a subsistence level, income is not significantly related to life satisfaction.”
While we may need money to survive, we should avoid greed, for it is insatiable! An article published in the Journal of Happiness Studies observed “after one’s basic needs are satisfied, additional income does little to advance one’s subjective well-being.” Indeed, findings show that increased material consumption, especially at the cost of moral, and spiritual values, can erode happiness.
While people today say:
It is wise to use money responsibly, and honestly, and be content with the money you do have. Carefully consider your future needs because the plans of the diligent one will prove to be to your advantage.